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How to leverage Life Moments
in Banking Loyalty

May 11, 2026

Insights inspired by our latest webinar Trusted but not Loved: The Loyalty Gap in Banking, with HSBC UK, Tesco Bank and Deutsche Bank.

In the modern banking landscape, trust is no longer a differentiator, but a commodity. While customers trust banks to keep their money safe, they don’t necessarily love the experience, leading to a state of “Lazy Loyalty”. Today, 71% of customers maintain a relationship with at least one competing bank, resulting in a “fragmented wallet” where the primary bank loses its grip on the customer’s daily financial life.

To bridge this gap, banking institutions are moving beyond being a “silent utility” and adopting the “Hooks and Anchors” model.

What are Hooks and Anchors?

As Jake Bailey of Tesco Bank explains, this model redefines how customers engage with their financial providers:

The Anchor: This is the core financial product, such as your mortgage, your savings account, or your primary checking account. It provides the functional foundation of the relationship. Your cashback offer and more.
The Hook: This is the emotional differentiator. It is a personalised, often physical reward that drives behaviour and creates a sense of “psychological ownership” over the brand. It gives the customer a tangible experience that is fully associated to their relationship with the bank.

The Power of the Physical Hook

While digital rewards like cashback are efficient, they are often invisible and easily forgotten. Physical “hooks” leverage haptics, which is the science of how touch shapes emotion, to create lasting memories by requiring 21% less cognitive effort to process than digital media. By investing in tangible experiences, banks counteract the “ephemerality” of purely digital services, fostering psychological ownership. By having a physical gift, reward or experience, the customer starts to feel that the brand is truly “theirs”.

Research shows that physical materials hold customer attention 118% longer than digital ads, leading to brand recall that is 70% higher than digital alternatives. By grounding a digital approval, such as a mortgage, in a more empathetic and present way, banks move from a transient alert on a screen to a permanent fixture on a customer’s mantelpiece.

An example is a physical reward, like a photo of the new home, which can be gifted by the end of the journey. This transformation creates a “tangible conversation starter” within the home, building the competitive resistance necessary to turn a distant utility into an enduring, emotionally invested partnership.

ING Belgium’s "Personalised Empowerment"

ING Belgium has successfully turned this theory into practice by integrating services into the emotional milestones of their customers:

Primary Account Strategy: They heavily incentivise “packs” where salary deposits lead to lower monthly fees, creating a financial “hook” that makes the relationship “sticky”.
Psychological Loyalty: By using AI-driven insights to act as a financial coach, providing real-time savings recommendations, they ensure customers rely on their app for emotional and financial well-being. This personalisation can also be used on their ING+ Deals to offer cashback with brands that resonate the most with their customer.
Emotional Touchpoints: Through their partnership with Stampix, parents who open a child’s savings account receive a poster-sized photo print celebrating a milestone. This physical keepsake, complete with a personalised note, ensures the bank becomes part of a family memory that lasts forever.

The Bottom Line: Advocacy Drives Growth

Closing the Loyalty Gap isn’t just about “feeling good”. It’s also a massive revenue driver. Banks in the top 20% for customer advocacy grow their domestic revenues 1.7x faster than those in the bottom segment.

By mastering the “Hooks and Anchors” strategy, banks can stop being a faceless utility and start being a trusted partner in their customers’ most important life moments.